Five Attitude Changes to Help You Avoid Defective Dating



1. Every relationship is an opportunity to model Christ's love.
The world will know we follow Christ by the way we love others. Hence, we must practice love as God defines it - sincere, servant-hearted, and selfless - not the world's brand of selfish and sensual love based on what feels good.


2. My unmarried years are a gift from God.
As a single we have the freedom right now to explore, study, and tackle the world. Use it to pursue more effective ministry and deeper friendships with people of both genders


3. I don't need to pursue a romantic relationship before I'm ready for marriage.
If two people can't make a commitment to each other, they don't have any business pursuing romance. They should limit the time and energy they invest in each other.
Have the patience to wait, seek close relationships with family and deep nonromantic relationships with brothers and sisters in the Lord.


4. I cannot "own" someone otuside of marriage.
Claim on another person's time, affection, and future before marriage is unwarranted.
By staking a claim on each other, we've stifled our individual growth and consumed enery that we should have directed into service and preparation for the future.


5. I will avoid situations that could compromise the purity of my body or mind.
Avoid placing ourselves in settings that encourage temptation.

The God-fashioned life leaves no room for pettiness, insincerity, wasted time, or selfishness.

Leaving dating behind is a by-product of God's primary desire for us to consume ourselves with seeking Him wholeheartedly.


We must always question ourselves, "Am I giving God my best?" - We will never experience God's best until we give God our all.